The Joy of Being Trustworthy

The Fear of Missing Out is a terrible thing. 

I know, because that was the guiding principle of my younger, foolish life.

When dating, I never wanted to let the girl know where I was. I never wanted to commit to anything. I never wanted her to come over unannounced. 

Why? 

I wanted to keep my options open.

What if someone else wanted to go out that night? If I had no firm commitments, I could take her up on her offer.

Or what if I met someone new at the coffee shop? If no one knew what I was doing, I had plausible deniability AND the freedom to go out with a new person. 

The best of both worlds. 

And the worst life.

I didn't know it at the time, but, by never being trustworthy, I was really missing out on the best feeling in the universe:

The joy of being trustworthy.

My FOMO lifestyle came to a horrible end.

Girls who cared about me eventually got burned out by my vague non-committals. I thought my strategy would always leave me options and instead it left me alone on the floor of an empty house. 

Rock bottom, and then some.

That marked the end of my FOMO strategy. I once heard a wise man say, "There's something indescribably great about your partner always knowing where you are."

He was absolutely right.

Now I take great pains to always tell her where I am. She doesn't even have to ask. I want her to know. I want to be accountable. I want to be trustworthy. 

It makes me so happy. 

Try it sometime. Find a person you want to be accountable to and be accountable. Let them check your phone anytime they want. Give them your email password. Make sure they know your schedule. 

Be 100% trustworthy and see what happens.

It sounds scary, but it's not. On the contrary.

It will make you so happy, too.

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